Monday, April 11, 2011

It’s starting to be how I thought it would…

Before Elena, I’d had a lot of experience with children of all ages…as a teenager, I babysat a great deal & even nannied one summer for a newborn…I have been very involved with both my nephews since their births & my very good friend has 2 boys that I also have been around since their births…as prepared as all of this experience made me feel, it’s so very different when it’s a child of my own that I’m dealing with…I had all of these preconceived ideas about how I would do things…a list of stuff I would & wouldn’t do…did you feel that whoosh? That was my preconceived ideas & list of woulds & wouldn’ts flying out the window!!
I never wanted to give a pacifier to my child…Elena uses a pacifier…She’s a comfort nurser & likes to be on my boob for comfort & will overeat to the point of making herself sick…I was afraid to give her a pacifier because of all the info out there that says it will interfere with breast feeding…it hasn’t interfered at all, she still breast feeds without any trouble & now, between feedings, when she’s fussy & wants to comfort nurse we have an alternative that works. She doesn’t always take the pacifier & that’s how I know she’s upset for another reason.

I never wanted to give my child “elixirs” like Gripe Water…I give Elena Gripe Water…she’s a gassy little girl & needs the help getting her toots out…watching her suffer & not being able to help her was heartbreaking for me…now that she doesn’t have to struggle to get her toots out, she’s a happier girl.

I didn’t think I’d need things like a rocking chair or baby swing…I have borrowed a rocking chair & bought a second hand swing…my back was killing me from having to walk & bounce Elena to comfort her…Elena is just as soothed & comforted now by us rocking in the chair. The swing has been great for when Elena is awake…now I don’t have to constantly hold her. Some of my favourite times now are sitting in front of the swing & having face to face interaction with Elena…she’s starting to smile & react to my voice…it’s the best time for me to read to her.

There’s a ton of other things too & I’m sure that there’ll be a ton more over the coming weeks, months & years…it’s made me learn not to feel guilty for changing my mind & exploring other options…& that would be the only advice I’ll ever offer to new Moms (& Dads)…don’t feel guilty for changing your mind & trying things you never thought you would. Follow your instincts & you’ll always do what’s best for your child.
Elena saw the Chiropractor on Wednesday last week & there were 2 spots on her spine that he adjusted…what a difference it made…she doesn’t seem to struggle as much to expel her gas & it doesn’t seem as painful for her to push it out. He also identified a spot on her mid-back that had a muscle knot & I’ve been rubbing it out with gentle pressure & she seems so much more comfortable.
Elena also saw the Pediatrician on Thursday for the results of her renal ultrasound…her right kidney is still dilated but still at just 3mm which means it hasn’t changed as she’s grown so there’s no cause for concern…we’ll check it again at 1 year. The Dr also weighed her & she’s 10 lbs 4 oz now!! She’s also grown a whole centimeter in length!
The best news of all this week…Friday night, Elena slept most of the night only waking up to feed then going right back down & she’s done that every night since!! She must be in a growth spurt too since she’s wanting to feed every 2 hours again…but she’ll sleep from 7pm to midnight or 1am so I get my butt in bed by about 8:30 or 9pm & get a good sleep & am able to get back to sleep after her feeds thru the night…it’s also fun having Elena awake & playful during the day.
Things are finally beginning to feel routine…less stressful & hard…& the weather is finally starting to get nice enough for us to get out walking!!


  1. That's wonderful advice! No one *knows* what they will or won't do until they're faced with that particular situation. I'm glad that you're allowing yourself to be flexible. Happy Mommyhood to you!

  2. It sounds like a wonderful routine--I'm so glad you are enjoying Elena!

  3. Glad to hear things are going well. :)

  4. I'm so glad you posted this - and it's wonderful advice! It's nice to hear you're getting a good routine down. Yay for sleeping baby!

    How did Elena do at the chiropractor? I'm pretty sure I'm going to take Chiquitito, but it makes me a little nervous, too.

  5. I can totally relate to your advice. I had a similar experience in that pre-baby I was 100% sure I would follow attachment parenting. Then I had a baby who for the most part resisted attachment parenting - she didn't take to breastfeeding (for multiple reasons), she slept better when in a separate bed (bassinet) in a separate room rather than cosleeping with me, she didn't like being still long enough to cuddle. The only thing she did like related to attachment parenting was being in a sling! And so many other things I was so sure of went out the window as well - like not all babies fall asleep in the car, not all babies love swings... and I was so committed to not letting her watch TV until she was close to 2 years old, and ended up being relieved when she would watch it for a while when she was a little over a year old, because it gave me a much-needed break.

    She also suffered a lot from gas and also some reflux. I never took her to a chiropractor, even though some people swear by it. I was just too scared to think of someone manipulating my baby when it wasn't a medical necessity. Now in hindsight I think I should have tried it because seeing her suffer through every feeding for months on end until she outgrew the gas (@5 months) and reflux (@8 months) was horrible - I did try a lot of different things, some of which helped a little, but nothing but time really made a major difference. I'm glad the chiropractor was able to help Elena!

  6. That is good advice!
    [and re rocking chair, we have one, mum got it for me as a present before Butterfly was born, and I imagined us cuddling, rocking together. Except.. not my girl! She does not like the rocking chair..]

    Glad to heat that she's now sleeping nights and awake at day :-) and isn't spring a lovely season :-)?

  7. Yay! I'm so happy for you that it's feeling easier and comfortable. Good job momma!

  8. I appreciate the advice because I find myself saying, "well, I'll never do that...." I just keep forgetting my little girl may have her own ideas!

    I'm so happy for you and Elena! You sound so in love. And she is truly beautiful :)


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