Sunday, October 9, 2011

7 ~ 37

Elena turned 7 months this week…and I turn 37…I always believed that I would marry at 25, have 2 or 3 kids by 30 & would be deeply immersed in raising children by the time I turned 37…that obviously didn’t work out…but I’ll take what I got thank you very much! I mean, the guy I was dating at 25 who I expected to marry & have those 2 or 3 children with, I can’t even fathom what a mistake that would have been. Someday maybe I’ll write about what a nightmare that relationship turned out to be but for now, take my word for it, I am colossally better off…hindsight & all.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how glad I am NOT to be in a relationship right now. Surprises the hell out of me! I never thought I’d feel this way. Oh sure, I miss the emotional support & extra pair of hands (& paycheck) a partner would provide but on the other hand, I am glad I don’t have to think about having sex, I’m grateful I can give Elena my undivided attention & not have to be concerned about a partner’s needs.
Then there’s the exciting milestones Elena has hit lately…her first tooth popped thru, bottom right, & the one next to it has just broke thru too. She’s figured out how to sit up from laying down …she tentatively crawls before sprawling on her belly…she pulls herself up on EVERYTHING…no matter how sturdy the object is. She then likes to let go & turn to look for me, to make sure I’m watching I guess, which inevitably results in her falling…she has also figured out that she can “walk” along whatever she’s pulled herself up on. Fun for her, nerve-wracking for me! Do I miss having a partner to share these amazing moments with? Honestly, not really. My Mom & Gramma both live with me…& there are always friends & other family just a text or phone call away to share a moment with.
The things I do miss about not having a partner, like the extra pair of hands or extra paycheck, aren’t really great reasons to be in a relationship…down the road, as Elena gets older, I’m sure my heart will open up again to the idea of dating & being in a relationship…for now, I’m quite content putting all my energy into raising Elena & giving her my undivided attention...but if one more person says, “well now is when you’ll meet Mr. Right since you least expect it…blah, blah, blah” I might punch them!
And now for some brag photos...these are from Elena's Half Year photo shoot...I couldn't help but make the 1st one my new header!!


  1. She is beautiful. I love the first one, and the one of her sitting in the sun, and the second from last. I agree with you completely. I am SOOOO glad not to be in a relationship. I have the most wonderful family of me and Scarlett, and my parents live just down the street and we see them every day. I listen to the other mothers at the baby groups talking about how they make their husbands get out of bed in the mornings and stuff like that. I also hear my friends complaining that their husbands are working late. None of these issues cross my mind. I wouldn't think twice about getting up and going to Scarlett in the morning - I'm so happy to be able to go to her.

  2. Love the new pictures, soooo adorable!!

  3. I love the new header! Elena is just gorgeous & I'm so happy things are going so well for you :)

  4. I LOVE the photos. Especially the new header. Elena is adorable!! I just want to pinch those cheeks.

    I am also amazed how little I miss having a partner. I am in a working moms support group (which is fabulous) and last week the topic of sex with a baby came up. The stress these poor women feel about sleep vs sex and what to do with kid during etc. And it sounds like they all have good husbands... Not many complaints so I can only imagine.

    As for sharing milestones... That is what all of us are here for in the blogosphere. And it records it for you as well.

  5. She's beautiful! I think that third photo is absolutely precious!

    Yes, I miss Mr. Right's paycheck sometimes, but that's about it. I don't have time for someone else right now--I couldn't possibly give another human being my attention after working all day and taking care of a 2 and 4 year. I'm sure it could be done, but I'll take my life right now, thank you :)

  6. Elena is beautiful, T!!

    I feel the same way about having someone in my life right now. While it would be nice in some respects (an extra pair of hands, the extra paycheck), I can't even imagine having to maintain that relationship. All my focus and energy goes to Claire!

    Keep posting pictures--- she is so precious!

  7. She's gorgeous! And, yup, I feel the same way.

  8. Happy [belated] Birthday! Beautiful pictures of a beutiful girl!


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